June 23rd, 2011 - Moving Notice

Dear Friends...please follow me at http://surrogatemomsjourney.blogspot.com/ as I have moved.  See you there!

A Surrogate Mom

January 2nd, 2011 - Happy 3rd Birthday!!!

Wow....three years old today!!!  Thank you R & M for sharing all the pictures of your beautiful children!  (I suppose I stole this picture from your FB page, lol)  It has been a joy to follow your beautiful family!  Your family is truly blessed.

Don't let anyone scare you that Three's are worst then the Two's!  As a parent of 4 (singleton) children...it's the 4th child that is the worst!!!  ;)

Happy Birthday Xia, Ru, and Zhen!!!

HUGS!!!

Kerri, A Surrogate Mom

January 1st, 2011 - almost 3 years later

Happy New Year!

Feeling a little sad, but I think it's mostly from an article of an IM's experience. Truly well written and the only thing that stood out was this: “You may think you want to stay in touch now, but trust me, once you have your baby, you’re barely going to remember her name. I call it surrogacy amnesia.” This was the statement made by an agency that the IM had interviewed.

Here is the link to that article: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/02/magazine/02babymaking-t.html?pagewanted=1

At just after 11 pm-ish on this very day...3 years ago, my water broke on Baby B. I remember pacing the hallway thinking CRAP...where's my purse with the OB's number...feeling a little panic, bags not packed (which was not unusual for me...it's not like I ever had a bag packed with my own 4 kids). I remember yelling downstairs to my husband that it was time (actually after I post this, I ought to re-read the actual entry for fun!). I remember calling R and letting him know that I was on the way to the hospital and we'd let him know what was up later. I think it was 2 am and Chuck was calling R to say they were sending me home...found out that R had been trying to get a flight out, but the first one didn't leave until 6 am his time. Anyways, so after 3 tests saying my water didn't break and me trying to be the polite New Yorker that I am (Yes, you can laugh)...I know I did not pee that much...not to mention, I remember the dog licking it up!!! lol Ok...through my insisting before I'd go home, the dr ordered an ultrasound and took one look and said, prep her quick...in a calm voice, but one where I knew it had to happen quickly b/c all of Baby B's fluids were gone. At this time, I'm thinking you have to find my husband to call R back. I remember Chuck saying...but I just called R to tell him it was a false alarm. Still makes me laugh to this day. I wasn't too scared about being rushed to the OR for my c-section...I clearly remember wondering if I'd be able to make the Bingo Buy-In at Grand Casino Hinckley that Saturday...and that the girls would miss me, if I didn't! BTW I was missed...the gals texted and left messages on my phone. Funny how we can remember things so long ago...to the detail!

Babies were all born healthy and were ready to make their appearance..even at 33 1/2 weeks gestation. Today they are just beautiful, happy and healthy as ever! At 4 am CST (guestimate) on January 2nd, 2011...these beautiful triplets will be 3 years old!!!

I still remember the day I met M and we were in the elevator and he brushed something off of R's forehead. It was touching and I thought it was true love for them. :) Too bad I wasn't there to see his reaction when R told his then "new" boyfriend that he was going to have triplets!

I remember that R didn't arrive in MN until about 11 am cst...I'm thinking he came right to my room to see me. Ok, well if he didn't, he at least came to see me right away. And that means a lot to me, after reading the article I shared above. He didn't forget me! That's all that matters! So back to that article and that statement...truly (for me) the saddest part of being a surrogate is the IP forgetting me right after it's over. I'm truly grateful to M & R for remembering me to this day. I hope we'll keep in touch but I understand that people's lives get busy and all.

Well enough babbling for today!

Happy New Year everyone!!!

Kerri, A Surrogate Mom

March 10th, 2010 - 2 years old!!!

Wow, where has the time gone? Xia, Ru, & Zhen turned 2 on January 2, 2010!!! Sorry for the late update. I am thankful everyday for being able to watch the triplets grow up via pictures and videos. Their daddies are just wonderful for that...as well as being parents. I'm loving every minute of watching and hearing how they experience every milestone with the triplets. Each one of them has their own personalities. It's awesome! Their daddies are so blessed. :)

Well I couldn't sleep and was thinking about the triplets, so I thought I would finally jump on here and post a quick update.

January 2, 2009 - HAPPY FIRST BIRTHDAY!!!

WOW...Exactly 1 year ago at 2 am, as I write this, my OB was telling the ER staff to prep me...it was time for these triplets to make their entrance!!! Baby B (later known as Ru) had enough...and his water (or is that my water??? lol) broke at 11 pm, 3 hours earlier...which is when we called my IP to tell him I was on my way to the hospital! I laugh how they told me 3 times, NO your water didn't break...obviously their high tech tests failed. lol I remember I was a bit panicked when the Dr said it was time...especially after we just called the IP to tell him that it was a false alarm based on the tests. lol

To this day, I remember the first cries of each of the babies as they came into this world! Such strong healthy cries, despite the fact that they were coming at 33 1/2 weeks! To this day, you would never know that they were premies. I am so proud of these little babies, as I know their daddies are today! The picture above is of the triplets (from left to right, Zhen, Ru, Xia) on their first Christmas at Grandma's!

The tears I have as I write this entry to share with you, are those of joy and happiness that I have given to their two wonderful dads. I can just imagine the year they have had and more to come. I am forever thankful for being their surrogate, and for being able to see the triplets grow via pictures. As a first time surrogate, you just don't know what to expect, how you will feel and how much contact you want or if you can even have any.

While today is the triplets birthday, they well celebrate their first birthday on Saturday. Can't wait to see the pictures!

I would like to share that they (the triplets with their daddies) will be filming at their party for ads in repeal of California's passage of Proposition 8 (hope I worded that correctly). For more information, please go to http://www.gettoknowmefirst.org/Overview.html I too am personally sad that Prop 8 passed; it's just not right. I hope that these ads will make a difference and help others realize the importance of Marriage Equality... You have my support here in Minnesota!

Hugs to my little surro triplets as you celebrate your first birthdays! Hugs to your daddies too!!

Love Always,

A Surrogate Mom, Kerri

July 2, 2008 - The Triplets are 6 Months old today!!!

Are they just the cutest little babies or what??? Today they are six months old and healthy...and I personally don't think you could ever tell that they were premies!!! I know I wish that I could just hold them and hug them because they are so big and cute! Yes I miss them but I am greatful that they live with their daddies! I can imagine how busy they keep them...wait until they are mobile! That will be great for them!!! lol

I'm still freezing and sending my breastmilk once a week. We'll be stopping that in a few weeks. While I would do this until they are a year (or at least until I start my next surrogacy), it will be nice to not have to worry about pumping every 4 hours....at least I can get through the night comfortably without having to wake up now to pump. I'm not sure what I will do when I dont have to pump anymore! lol

I have healed well after the c-section. I can finally look at the incision and touch it. After 4 vaginal deliveries...I definately will opt for a c-section with my next surrogacy!!

So I guess this will be my last post for awhile... if I get more pictures at 9 months and a year, I will definately share with you all.

Thank you again for following my journey and hope that there will be a second journey. I already started my blog for that journey...just waiting now.... wish me luck! :)

Have a great day!
Kerri

The Triplets at almost 4 months old!!!

Taken last month (April), Zhen, Ru, Xia. Are they just too cute. I just can't get over how big they are...you would just never know that they were premies.

Thanks to their daddy for sharing these pictures with me and my friends.

April 2, 2008 - The Triplets are THREE MONTHS old

ok...so the picture of them is a couple weeks old. This one was taken on Easter. Sometimes its hard to believe that I was pregnant with triplets!

Can you believe I'm ready to go again??? While I am getting my stuff together to work with a local surrogacy agency, I might go independent with a single guy referred by my IP. My desire is to try for twins. lol yes, I 'm not interested in carrying triplets.

Well we shall see what happens! Just wanted to share this cute picture of the triplets.

Have a great day!

Kerri